Men just end up hating me, says lovelorn Lady Gaga

Another hit album, millions of followers, but will the New York singer ever find true love?

BY Linda Palermo LAST UPDATED AT 15:46 ON Tue 29 Nov 2011

LADY GAGA might be enjoying unprecedented commercial and critical success, but the 25-year-old singer’s love life is a disaster, she tells Vanity Fair.
 
"I have never felt truly cherished by a lover. I have an inability to know what happiness feels like with a man," says Gaga in the magazine’s January issue.

"I have this effect on people where it starts out good. Then, when I’m in these relationships with people who are also creative, or creative in their own way, what happens is the attraction is initially there and it’s all unicorns and rainbows. And then they hate me."
 
Gaga has had another year of superlatives - the most Twitter followers of anyone at 16 million and rising, eight million copies of her album Born This Way sold - and is reportedly dating actor Taylor Kinney. But she wearily concedes that she may never find true love.
 
"If I’m supposed to end up like some crazy casualty, then that’s my destiny. I love show business. I need it. It’s like breath," she says. "When I’m on stage, I’m so giving and so open and myself. And when the spotlight goes off, I don’t quite know what to do with myself."
 
Perhaps we shouldn't be so surprised about Gaga's single status. A recent article on the website Nerve confirms what Gaga has discovered - 'Female Musicians Never Get Laid' the headline starkly announces.
 
Ellen Campesinos!, the bassist of indie-pop collective Los Campesinos!, tells Nerve that despite "playing bass in a touring band for five years" she's only had "intimate relations" four times in that time - explaining that said "intimate relations" are "third-base-plus".
 
After cataloguing her misadventures on the road, including sexual escapades with groupies, support bands and strangers, Campesinos! concludes that "attempting to have sex on tour is an awkward and messy experience with little sense of eroticism".
 
If only Lady Gaga had known. · 

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